Wednesday, October 29, 2014

"You're doing too much!"

"Sleep when the baby sleeps."
"Just stay upstairs in your room and feed/change the baby."
"Let someone else do the laundry/dishes/homework/clean up."
"Everything can wait."

I have heard of these each time I have had a baby.  Sure, the first couple times (especially with a non-C-section delivery) it's easy to do.  There is less to do.  It seems like a lot, at the time, especially with the first and second, but it's easier to take it slow.  It's more exciting for others - friends and family, as it's the first kids, and there are more visitors, offers to babysit, or come over and help.  (Not trying to point fingers or blame, but it's true.)  But life continues, and more kids come, more laundry, more dishes, more diapers, and the kids get bigger and have bigger problems, and people still say the same things.   

But I just had my 5th.  My kids are older, more involved, and are bigger with bigger problems.  (Apparently, October is the wrong month to have a baby when you have kids in school, but especially middle school.  The projects!!!)  Not only the kids, but I have had some bigger problems.  I have been struggling with health issues for the last few months and I am done.  Done feeling bad, done sitting around in a messy house, done getting tired so fast, just done.  And to be honest, I am pretty sure the family is done too.  They don't want to deal with it anymore.  (One of my children asked me if this was my last baby, since I am always so sick while I am pregnant.  It made me cry, but I know I need to teach a lesson about sacrifice, suffering, being unselfish, etc.  I need to do that with this child, especially!)  I get it.  My husband, my kids, my in-laws, my family, the super generous friends in our community, it's an old story.  "Fuzzy needs prayers.  Needs help."  They all have given so much and sometimes it is hard to keep giving.
Yes, I did have MAJOR surgery (as my mother tells me).  I know.  I am only 3.5 weeks out, and my incision is only 85% healed. Tommy took almost 2 1/2 weeks off.  But it didn't feel like time to be spent doing nothing.  We had more stresses this time around, more doctors visits AFTER the baby was born.  (We had 2 kids with strep diagnosis the day that I came home from the hospital, or the day after, I don't remember)  The baby needed to get to the doctor, and I wanted to have the tube taken out, etc. etc.  I tried to take it easy when I could.  I don't feel bad, and my body is so happy to NOT be pregnant or have diabetes, my kidneys are happier and life just goes on.  It just didn't feel like I COULD be sitting and doing nothing - well, nothing including nursing, changing and holding the baby.  But I still hear it. You need to slow down.  You are doing too much.

But this week, I had to take 2 kids to the doctor.  James and William have strep (again for James).  I had to go to the doctor's office 2 days in a row, to the pharmacy 2 days in a row, and continue with pick up, homework, etc. It makes me so upset that my James has strep for the second time this month, so I feel that I am not doing enough!  I ran around the house with bleach, crying as I was cleaning, changing sheets and just feeling like I can't win.  How can I slow down when life isn't?  I have 5 (!) kids.  They all need me.  All need help, my husband needs help.  He could use a clone on some of his days when he has 4 meetings in one night, but they all are activities that are for my kids.  The kids need clean uniforms (oh, and those dark socks!  How many mornings have I heard them ask where they are?!) and to do homework.  We all need to eat (unfortunately, all.the.time.).  It's just not possible.  I don't know how I am going to do less. 

Now, to be honest, my house is a mess.  It's dirty, I saw some huge cobwebs up in a corner that I can't even get close to reaching but you can only see when the sun hits it juuust right.  I will say my bathrooms are clean, and we need to have some clean dishes when I forget to buy paper plates, so on that front I am slowing down, and we had 4 baskets of clean laundry to fold.  So it all depends on how you look at it.  But not driving?  Not possible.

Everyone has been amazing.  Uh-MAZING!  The meals, the love, the gifts, just keep coming.  We have had meals come even after the meal train was all done.  God has been so good to keep sending us His love through others!  It's been so great to feel all the love from our friends and community.  We are so blessed, and I feel that we may be wearing out our love and help. We do have to get back.  I know we do!  I am trying not to "do too much" but I am just 1 mom. 

And, I am sorely outnumbered!

Tuesday, October 28, 2014

Love my Lucy!

3 1/2 weeks.  She makes my days sweeter! 

Monday, October 27, 2014

Happy Birthday, Tommy!


To the father of my beautiful blessings, who gives from every part of his being, works so hard to bring home the bacon, and never complains on how his wife cooks that bacon, lets his kids climb him like a jungle gym, leads our children to Jesus by his example, laughs at his own jokes better than anyone else, enjoys a good drink, a good laugh, and the company of everyone. My husband who is always happy and patient with all the health issues his wife that just never seem to end.  Your unending supply of patience came from your amazing examples in your life and we are so blessed to have you!  Love you so much, my Tommy!!  

They learn quickly!

"Lucy, why are you crying?"

Not a real question, but I often ask while I am bouncing her, or just so she can hear my voice.

From behind me (and this was more than one child), "Is she hungry?"

"Nope, she just ate."

"Did she burp?"

"Does she need a diaper change?"

"Is she pooping?"

Wow.  Makes my heart happy to know that they have learned so much about baby care!

Friday, October 24, 2014

My Scouts

It is official!  My William received his Bobcat badge this week.  He has been waiting and waiting for this, and is so excited to finally be a scout.
 They practiced the scout promise, and it was adorable to watch these boys.

 This shows the many faces of my William.

 Meanwhile, my Patrick was doing his board of review to become a Second Class Scout (which he achieved!).  He also came home with a brand new position in the troop, and I am so proud that he wanted to step up and take this role.
Both my boys rising up in the ranks of scouthood.  Love these boys, and am so happy to have Tommy's support and encouragement.

Thursday, October 23, 2014

Just Get Along!

 This afternoon, these two needed to just get along.  Please!  Just get along! I asked for something so simple, and it turned into a ridiculous event.  Embarrassing, yelling, in the yard, whole-neighborhood-can-hear-you-and-I-can-hear-you-in-the-house.  Ugh.
 After some tears (mine) and some fussing (me again), I decided they needed some extra togetherness and work-togetherness. I was not sure how this would work out, but as soon as I put it on them, they got excited.
I sent them to collect the garbage in the house, and to just GET ALONG!  This instantly brought them to giggles, and sweet words, and they were so silly and happy to do this together.  I didn't hear anymore fighting, and they really worked it out.  Why haven't I done this before??  Apparently, some of those things you see on Facebook are good for something!

Thursday, October 16, 2014

Slowly Back to (the new) Normal

I know there is always a reason to see some sweet baby pictures, and enjoy some of that sweet face, but I wanted to give all my wonderful prayer warriors a quick update on me.

My nephrostomy tube is out!  I was not able to get it out while I was in the hospital with the baby (a big disappointment) but about 10 days later.  I do have some kidney stones which will need to be blasted or removed somehow, but I asked for a little break, and to wait a little.  I am so tired of doctor visits, medical bills, and being out of commission for my kids.  It is WONDERFUL to not have anything sticking out of me, and I was super excited to wear pants in public, without worrying about how to cover up the bag attached to my leg.  When I came home, I put James on my lap: both legs!  He had been asking when he could sit on my left leg and fit on my lap without the baby in my tummy and it was a thrill to see how excited he was.  And, on top of that, the removal process went well, with no pain, no anesthesia and even some tears of relief.  Yes, hormones are still acting up, but not nearly as much as before. It also means I am able to start sleeping in my favorite position, on my left side.  Oh, how I missed that!

I am recovering pretty well from my C-section, and have had Tommy home for 2 weeks, and though I wish I could say I was being good and taking it easy, but I have done a little too much, and was told to take it easy so I don't get an infection.  Tommy will be heading back to work and I am trying not to panic.  Can I do this?  I know I can, with God's help!  (Jesus, I trust in YOU!)

And, in other little thing news, I can wear my wedding rings again, as well as my watch, which is slipping down my wrist a little more.  I don't have to wear flip flops for my extra swollen feet, and I can put my cute shoes back on.  Now, my cute clothes are another story, but it's still early.  I am not dumb enough to try to put a pair of my favorite jeans on just yet, though I would love to be in a pair soon!

And, because I can.


Tuesday, October 14, 2014

Sunday, October 12, 2014

Visitors and New Baby Love!

The love and joy a new baby brings is something I am always awed by, even in the midst of my tears and sleeplessness.  As Tommy said, "We are always happier when a baby comes."

 The Grandparents!

 Aunt Jessie and Uncle Joey
 Aunt Theresa (or more affectionately known as Aunt TT).
 Aunt Melanie and Uncle Joe (my brother).
 Visits from the next youngest cousin, Gus, and his parents.  He is almost 1, and he just wanted to touch her face. 

 Oldest Reynolds cousin Hayley and her sister Alex.

 Aunt Chrissy and her daughter Lynsey.  Cousin love!!

Monday, October 6, 2014

Introducing #5!

Lucy Margaret
October 3, 2014
8 pounds, 7 ounces
20 3/4 inches
 (Picture overload alert! :)

We are all so much in love!!  Thank you for all the prayers that got us to this day and through this day!